Knowing your self
For many of us, talking about masturbation is a taboo, it's just not done.
Over the ages, religious and political groups have condemned masturbation, claiming it inhibits self-control, promotes sexual promiscuity
and is damaging to our health - these claims are totally unfounded and are based
All research indicates that masturbation is a natural and normal activity,
and that it is good for our health.
Boys usually begin masturbating when they reach puberty, sometimes several times daily
until they find a satisfactory sexual partner, a process that may take five or
10 years. For them, they simply have this wonderful new toy and they cannot help
themselves and even then, they will likely experience more wet dreams.
Masturbation is also known as autoeroticism, it's a form of sexual stimulation
of one’s genitals and usually continues until orgasm is achieved. Masturbation
is most often done with one's own hands and fingers, our a sex toy like a
vibrator can be used.
Masturbation is an inherent aspect of human nature
Girls quite often have a more difficult time, especially if their parents are
strongly restrictive. They are confused and torn up by the natural desire to self
explore and the desire to be obedient. This confusion makes growing up
unnecessarily difficult and it's time that healthy common sense prevailed.
If they have the freedom, girls from as young as three years will begin self
masturbation simply because rubbing the genital area feels nice, although the
thrill of orgasm may not come until they reach puberty. During these early years
parents exercise subtle control by the overuse of restrictive clothing,
verbal and physical reprimands, and the directing of a child's energy outwards
into the material world.
Such deprivation can have many negative consequences such as incontinence
through into adolescence and beyond, low self esteem, depression and difficult
menstruation when it arrives. Of all the people who masturbate, this
includes 'every man' and an estimated eighty two percent of women, there has
never been any proof of harm.
We grow up in a tightly controlled world where people's opinions matter.
Unfortunately these ignorant and negative messages are based on personal fear
and superstitions, and they cause a great deal of shame and embarrassment about
what is a very natural and healthy activity. In analysis, there is no
truth in those negative arguments.
On the contrary, masturbation and the pleasure derived from it:
- Help us to release stress and relax
- Help us sleep better
- Exercise the lower abdomen and keep our reproductive system healthy
- Educate us about our own body
- Improve our sense perception
- Improve our ability to make love
- Help to know our own bodies and how they work.
Masturbation is important for helping you to discover your body and to find out
what you like. Contrary to popular belief, you are responsible for your own
orgasm. So if you know your body and know what excites you, you will be able to
communicate that to your partner.
Masturbation is very important for the overall health of the reproductive
system. In effect masturbation energises the reproductive organs and a girl comes
to know what is normal within her cycle which can lead to the early detection of
any problems which may arise.
After childbirth many women experience bladder leakage during daily walks,
exercising, sneezing, laughing, etc. This problem is a huge nuisance, to say the
least. The pelvic muscles which support the bladder and bowel become lose, and
masturbation along with pelvic floor exercises can help to restore muscle function
The urge to masturbate may come from romantic or sexual thoughts, but I can also
be induced by finding a quiet place for some personal pleasure to help relieve
stresses bought on by the surrounding environment.
well known actor Woody Allen is quoted as saying: "Don't knock masturbation, it's sex with someone you love" and "I am such a good lover because I practise a lot on my own."
Although he's a guy, these sentiments are also true for women.
Many famous personalities have come out in support of masturbation and it's an
activity that we can all enjoy in private or with close friends. The more talk
about it, the more it will become normalised and we mature as human beings.
An interesting history
In nineteenth centaury Europe, the wealthy and even middle class men were not
interested in having sex with their wives. They were left at home to raise the
kids and without sex, they were often very unhappy. This unhappiness was called
'women's hysteria' and the cure was to send them to
a doctor who would masturbate them to orgasm and they would be content for a while. Then to save
the doctors time and effort,
the vibrator was invented and women began to take care of their own sexual needs.
a Canadian adult-sex educator talks about the importance of
masturbation. She normalises and validates
self-pleasuring behaviour for women and also helps those who feel guilty, dirty
or repressed to enjoy their sexuality.
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