Do you ejaculate sooner than you and your partner wish?
Well don't worry, it happens to most men at some time during their life and this is
the most common male sexual dysfunction that affects almost every man at some
stage of their life and as long as it is infrequent, then there is no
cause for concern.
Typically premature ejaculation occurs in sexually inexperienced men where the
problem is assumed to be psychological, (first time nerves) and the problem
resolves itself as sexual confidence develops. However, if you regularly
ejaculate either before intercourse begins or soon afterward, you may need to
find help to overcome it.
When premature ejaculation is an occasional problem, it can be lived with, but
if it happens regularly, it can be distressing for one or both partners.
PE In Younger Men
If you have Premature Ejaculation during your first sexual experiences during
your teenage years, PE will go away as you gain sexual experience providing that
you are generally fit and healthy and can be helped with
non prescription herbals.
If you've experienced the problem for as long as you've been sexually active,
you have what is termed "primary premature ejaculation" and if
non prescription herbals don't work, you need to
Sudden Onset PE
If you've had no history of PE and it suddenly begins, you have what is know as
"secondary premature ejaculation" and you should have a medical examination to
ensure there is no underlying medical cause such as prostate problems or STD's.
Most often this is caused by malnutrition, aging and stress and can often be
helped with non prescription herbals.
Performance Anxiety - or pressure to perform to some expectation
Early sexual experiences, especially those in which you may have
hurried to reach climax in order to avoid being discovered, may
establish a lifelong pattern.
If you grew up in a family that considered sex dirty or
sinful, you may also have developed guilty feelings that
increase your tendency to rush through sexual encounters.
The relationship - emotional pressure between two people can
cause erectile dysfunction and PE. Emotional or mental strain in
any area of your life can play a role in PE, often limiting your
ability to relax and focus during sexual encounters.
of losing your erection may cause you to rush through sexual
Hormone levels may be out of balance
Impotence. You may be at increased risk of premature ejaculation
if you occasionally or consistently experience impotence.
Drugs including prescription medicines, social drugs and alcohol
Medical concerns that cause you
to feel anxious during sex.
Sexually transmitted diseases increasing penile sensitivity.
PE if left untreated can have a negative effect on your
relationships and general health and is a common cause of depression. It is
important to get over being embarrassed and get expert help.
Talk with your medical advisor and get treatment as soon as
Screening and diagnosis
Your medical practitioner can diagnose PE, to do it he/she will
need to know your medical and sexual history as well as some information about
your relationship, so you may include your sex partner to the interview.
Be prepared For:
- A prostate exam and blood test
- An examination of your penis and testicles
- Your religious upbringing
- Your early sexual experiences
- Your sexual relationships, past and present
- The circumstances in your life and in your sexual relationship
at the time you began experiencing premature ejaculation
- Any conflicts or concerns within your current relationship
- Your doctor will also want to know about your health history,
including your use of prescription or recreational drugs, and
may perform a general physical exam.
Effects of PE
- If persistent and left untreated, PE can:
Can cause distress in your personal life
Create stress in your relationships.
Ways to Overcome PE
- Take a break
- Avoiding intercourse for a period of time and focusing on other types of
sexual play so that pressure is removed from your sexual encounters.
- Pre Masturbation
- Masturbating an hour or two before intercourse so that you're able to
delay ejaculation during sex.
- The Grind
- When you feel you are nearing ejaculation, push you penis fully in and
grind your pubic bone against hers, this will spread the sensation and
pressure evenly over your shaft and the grinding down will stimulate her
clitoris and help to bring her to orgasm sooner.
- Take a break
- When you feel you are nearing ejaculation, just stop and wail till the
- The squeeze technique.
- Step 1. Begin sexual activity as usual, including stimulation of
the penis, until you feel almost ready to ejaculate then STOP
before you cum.
- Step 2. Have your partner squeeze the end of your penis, at the
point where the head (glans) joins the shaft, and maintain the
squeeze for several seconds, until the urge to ejaculate passes.
- Step 3. After the squeeze is released, wait for about half a
minute, then go back to foreplay. You may notice that squeezing
the penis causes it to become less erect, but when sexual
stimulation is resumed, it soon regains full erection.
- Step 4. If you again feel you're about to ejaculate, stop and have your
partner repeat the squeeze process.
By repeating this as many times as necessary, you can reach the
point of entering your partner without ejaculating. In theory, after a few
practice sessions you will learn how to delay
- Antidepressants may have a side effect of delayed sexual climax in many
- Topical creams help improve PE by reducing sensation in your penis. Just
apply the cream 10mins or so before intercourse and wipe it
off when your penis has lost enough sensation to help you delay
ejaculation, but use a condom or thoroughly remove the cream before
intercourse so that your partner doesn't experience genital
- Penis and Libido enhancement pills that boost testosterone levels, but
note some of these will cause penis enlargement.
- Understand the differences between male and female sexual functions
- Improve communication with your partner
- Women typically require more prolonged stimulation than men do to reach
orgasm, so spend plenty of time on foreplay and get her as close to orgasm
as possible before entering.
- For many
men, feeling pressure during sexual intercourse increases the
risk of premature ejaculation.
- Non prescription herbals